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Nabila Fowles-Gutierrez

Nabila is Divorce Coach & founder of Divorce Survival, helping clients not just survive but thrive after divorce. Nabila has 20 years of experience in supporting clients through complex family breakdowns, domestic abuse, family court proceedings, child custody, parental alienation, financial settlements, mental health, addiction, child protection, rape, trauma. 

Nabila is a qualified Mentor, Hypnotherapist, Ho'oponopono Practitioner, trained in Solution Focused Therapy and Qualified in Safeguarding Adults and Children.  

Dr Mahera Ruby

Dr Ruby is a renowened expert and author specialising in behavioural management of teens, parenting after divorce, helping children and young people survive parental conflict and creating wellbeing in crisis.  

Shamima Akthar 

Shamima is a Senior Social worker with experience of working with complex cases of family breakdown, divorce and child protection. She uses a proactive and reflective approach to empower families through crisis.  

Sayeda Habib

Sayeda is life coach specialising in helping create profound and lasting transformations in clients and helping clients overcome trauma  

Areas of expertise

Our team are highly experienced in dealing with complex cases ranging from high conflict divorces, child custody, parental conflict, domestic abuse, child protection, parental alienation, international cases, child abduction, financial settlements and high net worth cases. We work with a range of clients, those self representing as litigants in person and those who are represented by a lawyer/solicitor or barrister. Our team has overseen cases in the family courts, county courts, High Courts and Court or Appeal. 

We work alongside top legal experts, solicitors, lawyers, barristers, international lawyers, and law firms. By working as a team, we help achieve outstanding results both in court and outside of court. 

Who we can help

We work with a wide range of clients, both men and women, those who are fresh out of a relationship and thinking about divore, to those who have been divorced for years but still have ongoing issues. Our clients range from TV personalities, High Net Worth individuals to those who are legally aided. Our criteria for working with clients is that they must be ready to make a transformation and to begin a new lifelong journey. 

Many of our clients go on to become personal friends and that's because, as a team, once we accept a client onto our programme, we commit to achieving results. Our clients become part of our own family and we are there every step of the way to ensure they succeed. Transformations require not only professional and therapeutic skills, they require loving energy to achieve results...that's what we specialise in. This is not about "winning" in court, this is about winning at life! 

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About Divorce Survival 


Meet Nabila 

Nabila Fowles-Gutierrez is the founder of Divorce Survival. 

Nabila has gone through divorce twice and understands her clients, not merely from a professional point of view, but because she has experienced the pain of divorce first hand. Using solution focused therapeutic hypnotherapy and coaching methods, Nabila combines skill with empathy and most of all love for her clients. Nabila has trained as a litigation friend and worked alongside some of the Top UK law firms and internatonal law specialists to help her clients move quickly through the legal process to focus on their end goal of achieving lasting happiness and freedom in their new lives.  

"It is so rewarding working with Nabila, who expertly guides my clients through the raw emotions of divorce - while I handle the legal issues. Everyone benefits, with less emotional damage and quicker resolution!" 

Aina Khan OBE 

We have created a worldclass system that can exist (even enhance) the legal process to ensure that our clients are never stuck in the limbo of divorce so they can move forward with confidence and ease to start living the lives they deserve. 

Our Process

Divorce Survival is a completely unique system that allows clients, whether or not they have a legal representative, to breeze through their divorce with ease. Each client receives bespoke support tailored to their exact individual needs, creating a strategy and blueprint for success.  

We focus on 3 key areas - 

  • Personal Transformation - working intricately to understand the underlying issues that have led to divorce, you will gain the knowledge, insight and wisdom, learning powerful techniques to build resilience for the future. Using coaching, practical and therapeutic techniques our team will be with you every step of the way in your transformation. 
  • Family Transformation - our team will work with you to ensure your family is supported through the transition and from divorce to living separate lives, positive co-parenting and eventually creating strong blended families. 
  • Legal Results - working alongside lawyers or with litigants in person, our team will expertly guide you through any stage of divorce or family proceedings to ensure that you are confident, and focused on one sole goal, a successful resolution. 

We believe in you ...

What makes the Divorce Survival team unique is that we are not detached impersonal therapists, we are a team of deeply caring, heart-centred change-facilitators that believes in the capacity for tremeandous human growth through adversity. Each of us cares for our clients as if they are our own family members. And believe that any pain be healed with authentic caring and love. 

For us, this is NOT a job...it's a PASSION! 

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Nabila Fowles-Gutierrez - Founder of Divorce Survival 

20 years of experience supporting people in crisis 

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Live a fulfilled, confident and happy life after divorce. Achieve strength and resilience. Learn powerful lessons. Propel yourself and your family to a new path of success. 

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WE HELP CLIENTS TRANSFORM THEIR LIVES

Personal Transformation

We help clients make lasting and powerful transformations to live happy empowered lives with more smiles and less tears.

Family Transformation

We assist families and parents achieve positive lasting bonds despite divorce. Specialising in co-parenting through conflict and parental alienation. 

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We work with clients and their legal representatives reduce conflict and achieve outstanding results in and out of court, working with some of the best law firms in the UK and internationally. We help in and out of court. 

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Let's talk about divorce

We understand that divorce is the most stressful life event anyone could face. Sadly, most people are completely unprepared facing this all alone. They're left coping with overwhelming feelings of loss, anger, grief, anxiety and sadness, without any guidance or support. Divorce is quite simply, toxic. 

AND in the middle of this toxic shock, you've got huge, critical life decisions to make... children, finances, housing, etc... but you're in a state of trauma.  

The consequences of making bad decisions, can cost years of heartache, to everyone involved, causing financial losses, escalating legal bills, and the mucher higher price of needless suffering and heartache. 

But all is not lost...we are here to help

How we can help

Most people wrongly believe that divorce is all about getting a legal solution, ignoring 99% of the issues that have nothing to do with the law. They do things the old way, focusing on hiring the best lawyer and then end up disappointed (even if the legal elements are fixed) that their lives are still in turmoil. That's because 99% of the issues in divorce have nothing to do with the law and hiring a lawyer alone cannot fix the problem.  

The old way of doing things simply doesn't work... 

That's why so many people suffer in protracted, acrimonious and bitter divorces instead of moving forward with their lives. If hiring the best lawyer was all that was needed, then why would celebrities and other high net worth individuals who can afford the best lawyers still suffer in bitter divorce battles? 

The truth is that hiring a top lawyer is not enough...

Even top lawyers understand that to get the best results clients and their families need support beyond the legalities. Clients are people, not just names on a piece of legal paper. And that's why, at Divorce Survival, we understand that doing things the old way is simply not enough in a modern, fast-moving world. We have engineered a pioneering, groundbreadking system that's helping our clients move from divorce to freedom. Our proven system is so powerful that top law firms and legal experts are realising that working with us doesn't just mean wins in court or successful co-parenting, ending acrimony, reducing conflict or faster settlements. Our clients don't just achieve speedier results, they go on to enjoy happy lives, even after traumatic divorces. With our proven strategies, our clients transform their lives, build strong families and find swift resolutions both in and out of court. 

Our clients don't just win cases, they win at life! 

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Articles

Blind Anger - The Invisible Wall In Your Divorce 

By Nabila Fowles-Gutierrez, Divorce Coach & Founder of Divorce Survival 

Published on April 10, 2019  

We all know divorce is a reason for people to feel betrayed and angry. That's why, after all, they are getting divorced. Something has malfunctioned and broken beyond repair, so it's no wonder there are strong emotions, especially anger. But what most people don't seem to understand, is that anger is the wall preventing most problems from being resolved in divorce. I know. I was there, not once but twice, (true story!).  

I know better than most that decision-making and judgement are impaired by emotions and most of all anger. When I was in the thrust of proceedings, the blood boiled in my veins constantly. I was unable to sleep, eat or think without feeling like I was falling off an edge. The symptoms were not just emotional, they were physical. Dry mouth, tight chest, palpitations, shallow breathing. Toxic adrenaline and cortisol racing through me in a debilitating cocktail day and night, causing me sleep depravation, and most of all impaired thinking. Little wonder when I was asked to make an important decision, my head was unable to process the information clearly. As a fully-functioning professional in my career, it was frustratingly impossible for me to make simple decisions in my divorce without making critical errors. People observing me would see me change from a lovely person into a raging monster, blurting out a monologue of poison without taking a breath. Nasty stuff. What I didn't realise it that this anger was blinding me from being able to make clear decisions for my family, and the ones I did make, just kept making the problems worse. Instead of creating solutions, my decisions through the fog of my anger were building even bigger obstacles. As it at every juncture, I would just keep shooting myself in the foot. Behaviour of the lowest standards. Not my proudest moments in life.  

This is what most people in divorce are unable so see, and why many legal professionals highly skilled in creating legal solutions and ways forward are unable to manage in their incensed clients. They ask themselves "Why won't he/she just settle? There's a good offer on the table". The reason is blind anger. It's not about the sensible settlement, or creating a perfect court order. None of that will fix the problem. An angry client with a "perfect" settlement will not be happy, because the emotional blindfold is on tight and they are unable to see past their own feelings to consider any viable solutions. There are countless stories of epic and drawn out divorce fights, ones costing hundreds of thousands (if not millions) in legal fees. In the end, no settlement, no solutions, no ways forward. Frustration. Bankruptcy. Everyone loses. Why? Anger. Blind anger.  

This anger is not just in financial settlements, it impairs parents from being able to effectively co-parent after divorce with children stuck in the middle of a nasty war. It's vicious becoming all about a "getting one-up" situation, with parents throwing to the side any options for moving forward positively. Instead making choices that to an outsider, are quite frankly baffling, irrational and devoid of any sense of putting a child's needs first.  

But what can be done? It's not a simple task, by any means. Working with clients who are facing blind-anger scenarios takes sensitivity, empathy, patience and courage. It's not for the faint-hearted or the inexperienced. An angry response in divorce proceedings is a triggered primal reaction, I have previously described as the "Bear Reflex". Another way of looking at it is pure, unfiltered emotional pain. The manifestation of that pain is anger. These people mostly need someone to hear them out, someone not afraid of the spontaneous and uncontrollable vitriolic expulsions. Eventually, when an atmosphere of understanding and trust is developed, it is possible to help them climb out of that particular angry black hole into a sense of clarity and calm. In the hole they can only see above them, a narrow and limiting perspective. However, in the process of supporting someone to come out of the black hole they are finally able to rise above the angry fog, gain a better perspective and achieve clear thinking. When this breakthrough happens, it's one of the most powerful moments, often with a release of healing tears and even laughter, like a veil being removed - offering clarity and the ability to move in a different direction.  

If you are a legal professional and have one of those clients who is stuck, not moving forward and you dread their calls or avoid their barrage of emails, consider that they are probably up against their own angry wall. They can't see past it, and the likelihood is, that until they do, whatever solutions you offer will be disregarded and tossed aside. Until they feel heard and understood, their hollering will not cease and no matter what sensible solution you offer, they will be rejected. So, if you I've just described "that" client, don't worry, I'm here. Reach out. It might just be the br

©Divorce Survival 2019 no part of this article may be used without the Author's permission  

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The "Bear Reflex"​ What No One Told You About Divorce! 

By Nabila Fowles-Gutierrez, Divorce Coach & Founder of Divorce Survival 

Published on March 27, 2019

Unless you have actually been through divorce, you will read this with sympathy, but you will never truly comprehend just how traumatic and devastating an event it really is. Many of my clients describe divorce as a "living death", like a never ending cascade of events that crush you from the inside, obliterate everything you knew and leave you picking up the debris of your past-life. Your past, dreams and hopes just died. It physically hurts to even remember how to dream again of your future. And in the midst of all that pain, anger, despair, you will be making some of the most important decisions about yours and your family's future. For those of you who haven't had the misfortune of this event, take it from me, twice divorced (now happily married and coaching on this stuff), the only way I can describe it, is like being dragged out of a near-fatal car crash to suddenly do complex algebra. And no, I'm not just being dramatic. This stuff is just as dangerous as a car skidding out of control on a busy motorway. People do crazy and even unthinkable things under the pressure of this perfect storm. From the outside it may indeed seem irrational or crazy, but when you live, survive and coach on this stuff, you come to realise that there is pretty much no other event that takes people to such a low. Not even bereavement. And yes. I know that sounds overly dramatic. But trust me. I'm not exaggerating!  

Whilst we hear of Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin "Consciously Un-Coupling" (how lovely for them) most people I work with are not on this New-Age path to divorce enlightenment. Nothing wrong with pursuing such a noble path. However, for many, if not most, it isn't all "Kumbaya" and skipping holding hands together to enjoy the kids' nativity play. For mere mortals (the ones I know and coach), not so blessed with hippiness and spiritual virtue, it can get mad, bad and even downright ugly. Some even go to what I call "The Bear Pit"... Anyone who's been through an ugly divorce will know exactly what that means! Of course, with love, support, kindness and expert guidance, they can come out of the depths of their own personal hell and rise to heights they had never even considered!  

But let me explain a bit more about the "Bear Pit". This is what I have named the place where rules and philosophies don't count for much and things simply get down and dirty. It's the place unsupported people can end up particularly when it comes to two particular issues: children and finances. Let's face it, most people going through divorce have to work out at least one if not both of those issues, that this is where things can unravel and end up in the "Bear Pit". But so you can understand how we got here, let me first explain what I call the "Bear Reflex".  

The "Bear Reflect" is my term for a primal reaction that is normally triggered when one or both parties feel threatened by an event in divorce normally relating to children, particularly custody issues. These events provoke deep primal instincts rendering those involved virtually incapable of rational thought or behaviour. And no, I'm not talking about the kinds of people you might be tempted to jeer on daytime television. This behaviour can happen to anyone, irrespective of educational or professional status. Even those at the very top of the social tree, (lest we forget the Charles and Diana saga). My clients come from the full socio-economic range. From individuals struggling on benefits (many due to circumstances surrounding the divorce), to students and high earning professionals - doctors through to executives. Regardless of the status, when the "Bear Reflex" kicks in, behaviour can become erratic and even lead to sabotaging of viable solutions. Creating tangible goals beyond the immediate crisis and working to high standards of behaviour is one of the most important roles I have as a Divorce Coach. We make a joint pact to only accept the highest standards of behaviour for ourselves in the process. In so doing, when a client falls into the "Bear Pit", a firm yet loving reminder of their own standards. So my role, in addition to the practical & emotional support, is to ensure my clients avoid falling into the "Bear Pit" and reduce the "Bear Reflex", creating real-life coping strategies that bring them back to a sense of balance, where they can ensure their behaviour meets their own ethical and moral values.  

What I learn every day in my work, is that divorce is a perfect storm - and it's no wonder people can behave in unimaginable ways through the process. No one is ever prepared have to make life-changing decisions whilst in the middle of the most traumatic event in life. It makes perfect sense that so many people end up in crisis. So, in addition to my job, supporting clients to find their inner strength and succeed, I feel it is also my duty to highlight just how difficult it can be for all involved.  

If you see a friend struggling through divorce - and they are behaving like a mad, bad, angry bear, then you'll know it's their "Bear Reflex" kicking in. Cut them some slack. Avoid lecturing them or even offering (un)helpful advice - lend them an ear, a shoulder to cry on and remind them of who they really are. Failing that, now you know that there is someone out there able to calm screeching bears! Send them my way: nabila@divorcesurvival.co.uk or let them watch this masterclass.  

Off to help some lovely bears now!

©Divorce Survival 2019 no part of this article may be used without the Author's permission  

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"Nabila was able to help me to see my issues from a clearer perspective. Best of all, her incredible positive energy is infectious."  

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"We felt we were drowning. We decided to appoint Nabila as she had the experience in the fields we needed and has been of tremendous support and her advice has been invaluable."

"Nabila was exactly what I needed I'm very grateful to have had an opportunity to work with her"

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"Nabila is awesome-without her level of support, I would have had a total mental breakdown. She provides a personal service, empowering you to cope through as you go through the worst time of your life…” 

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"Nabila was able to help me to see my issues from a clearer perspective. Best of all, her incredible positive energy is infectious."  

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"We felt we were drowning. We decided to appoint Nabila as she had the experience in the fields we needed and has been of tremendous support and her advice has been invaluable."

"Nabila was exactly what I needed I'm very grateful to have had an opportunity to work with her"

- N.D.Essex

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"Nabila is awesome-without her level of support, I would have had a total mental breakdown. She provides a personal service, empowering you to cope through as you go through the worst time of your life…” 

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"Nabila was able to help me to see my issues from a clearer perspective. Best of all, her incredible positive energy is infectious."  

"This was a difficult process for me…however, this was made easy through Nabila's help and guidance"

- S.P. London, UK

- H.K. West Midlands, UK

"We felt we were drowning. We decided to appoint Nabila as she had the experience in the fields we needed and has been of tremendous support and her advice has been invaluable."

"Nabila was exactly what I needed I'm very grateful to have had an opportunity to work with her"

- N.D.Essex

- N.K. London

"Nabila is awesome-without her level of support, I would have had a total mental breakdown. She provides a personal service, empowering you to cope through as you go through the worst time of your life…” 

- L.A. Hampshire

“Thank you for your excellent work. You went above and beyond your call of duty. I was very well supported throughout the whole process..."  

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